You will want to use Autoit
for this. You can read progressbars, interfaces, and system processes. Depending on what programs you are running you should be able to deal with your problem. Its very basic (that is why its called "Basic Like"), but very effective.
Bit of a learning curve but not too difficult.
Also, you might consider the Ram load from compiled scripts. If your only going to be using it on your own machine, that wont matter to much as you may not need to compile anything. Still, keep all that in mind.
EDIT: And also ask questions on the forum
. The more you ask the faster you will learn.
I hope this helps.