Girl Trouble
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dont worry rud im havin girl probs too this year,and i think i got a girl i want to ask to the first school dance but im only goin if she goes with me,and hey ive got nothing to lose!y because i lost my dignity last year
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dont worry rud im havin girl probs too this year,and i think i got a girl i want to ask to the first school dance but im only goin if she goes with me,and hey ive got nothing to lose!y because i lost my dignity last year
ASK HER!! dances are sooo much more fun when you have a girl!!
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My take on things is a bit different than most other people's. What I would do is just sit back and not get upset over it. Relationships tend not to last too long in school, some do but the odds of them lasting a very long time aren't very high, at least from what I've seen. Look at the situation as an outsider. Be her friend, be nice to her, support her and basically just do everything you can to keep her as a friend. It's better to have her as a friend than to not have her at all. You could also try telling her how you feel about her boyfriend but that might cause some tension between the two of you. Actually, it might cause more than just a little tension, trust me I've done it quite a few times and not one of those times did it go very well. Maybe it was just bad luck, but if you do it be prepared. Just my two cents.
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ASK HER!! dances are sooo much more fun when you have a girl!!
lol, I think that's pretty funny. The one to first ask girl advice is now all of a sudden giving it.
I'm also not one to give girl advice as I've never had and don't want a gf right now, but if I was in your shoes I would wait a bit and see what happens. Talk to her a lot and she might start liking you more than the other guy if they really aren't serious about their relationship. At the same time though, I like a girl and want to have a friendship (not relationship) with her but can't even get the courage to talk to her...lol
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im 15 and rud is 14 correct?btw rud get on steam i want to tlk to u
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You need to be open with people to communicate your feelings.
One thing that I've learned throughout my youth is that people can not read your mind. People do have the ability to read body language, at times, but can not be completely certain of your feelings unless you have the maturity and confidence to actually bring them forth.
If you communicate with her, it'll show your maturity and the fact is that you truly can't lose. The worst thing that could happen is that she doesn't like you, as you like her. If such a case is it, well then the next step of your friendship falls on to the two of you. If either one of you are to immature to handle the different, but natural, feelings that someone has shared, then the friendship will fall apart. If that is not the case, then it will grow stronger.
Anything that is meant to happen in life, will..
For example, I have been in many relationships, but one sticks out in my mind exclusively. I was on and off with this one girl whom I truly cared for, and at times mixed signals were sent from her. At some point we developed a mutual like for each other, but things went sour when she moved away for school, and the distance tore us apart.
One day, out of nowhere, I met up with her at a local grocery store and we were so excited to see each other. She was back home, from school, and it was if an old flame had been re hindered in a way. Nothing got serious, but I seriously did enjoy her returning company, and I felt as if it was meant to be that for whatever reason, we were back together, as friends. Our friendship grew stronger through the time..
Every challenge or experience you go through, you must learn from. The time that we were together, unexpectedly, changed us both because we learned to appreciate things, because they will not always be there.
I was about 15 or 16 when I had my first love, and when it ended, I felt that life could never get better. I had lost my 'love,' and it became an emotional stage for me. The fact is, you'll go through many challenges before you find the one and only for you, and unfortunately, I can't honestly say that this is the girl for you... but who knows.
The girl that I am with now, my soon to be fiance', is the most wonderful human being I have ever encountered in my lifetime. She is without any doubt in my mind, the one that I always thought I'd find. I did lose hope of finding the one, but she came into my life unexpectedly. I love her more than life itself, and I would do absolutely anything in this world for her. The fact is, I'd give my last breath for her, and I'd give the world to see her for one second of my day.
Right now its difficult because with me being a freshman in college, and her a senior in high school, we're in different parts of the country. She lives in Michigan right now, so it is long distance, but we are strong enough to handle the long distance. We are truly in love, and the fact is, I know that'll never change.
Now, the thing that you must remember is that before you can find the one, you must face the challenges of loss and pain that you will experience with other relationships. Take them as experiences that you must learn from, and let them change you, if in a good way. Then you will truly be happy at some point in your life, when you meet the one you'll spend the rest of your life with.
I wish you the best of luck my friend..
Remember that love is not defined, and it is different for everyone. It can come at a different age or time or in a different way for everyone, but you and only you can determine when you are in love. And when you are in love, and you know it without a single doubt in your heart and soul, never ever let that go.
One thing that I've learned throughout my youth is that people can not read your mind. People do have the ability to read body language, at times, but can not be completely certain of your feelings unless you have the maturity and confidence to actually bring them forth.
If you communicate with her, it'll show your maturity and the fact is that you truly can't lose. The worst thing that could happen is that she doesn't like you, as you like her. If such a case is it, well then the next step of your friendship falls on to the two of you. If either one of you are to immature to handle the different, but natural, feelings that someone has shared, then the friendship will fall apart. If that is not the case, then it will grow stronger.
Anything that is meant to happen in life, will..
For example, I have been in many relationships, but one sticks out in my mind exclusively. I was on and off with this one girl whom I truly cared for, and at times mixed signals were sent from her. At some point we developed a mutual like for each other, but things went sour when she moved away for school, and the distance tore us apart.
One day, out of nowhere, I met up with her at a local grocery store and we were so excited to see each other. She was back home, from school, and it was if an old flame had been re hindered in a way. Nothing got serious, but I seriously did enjoy her returning company, and I felt as if it was meant to be that for whatever reason, we were back together, as friends. Our friendship grew stronger through the time..
Every challenge or experience you go through, you must learn from. The time that we were together, unexpectedly, changed us both because we learned to appreciate things, because they will not always be there.
I was about 15 or 16 when I had my first love, and when it ended, I felt that life could never get better. I had lost my 'love,' and it became an emotional stage for me. The fact is, you'll go through many challenges before you find the one and only for you, and unfortunately, I can't honestly say that this is the girl for you... but who knows.
The girl that I am with now, my soon to be fiance', is the most wonderful human being I have ever encountered in my lifetime. She is without any doubt in my mind, the one that I always thought I'd find. I did lose hope of finding the one, but she came into my life unexpectedly. I love her more than life itself, and I would do absolutely anything in this world for her. The fact is, I'd give my last breath for her, and I'd give the world to see her for one second of my day.
Right now its difficult because with me being a freshman in college, and her a senior in high school, we're in different parts of the country. She lives in Michigan right now, so it is long distance, but we are strong enough to handle the long distance. We are truly in love, and the fact is, I know that'll never change.
Now, the thing that you must remember is that before you can find the one, you must face the challenges of loss and pain that you will experience with other relationships. Take them as experiences that you must learn from, and let them change you, if in a good way. Then you will truly be happy at some point in your life, when you meet the one you'll spend the rest of your life with.
I wish you the best of luck my friend..
Remember that love is not defined, and it is different for everyone. It can come at a different age or time or in a different way for everyone, but you and only you can determine when you are in love. And when you are in love, and you know it without a single doubt in your heart and soul, never ever let that go.
