heres how you get the recycle bin back:
1. right click on desktop
2. click personalize
3. click Change desktop icons on the left hand side of the window that comes up
4. click the box beside Recycle bin if it is not checked.
And i honestly dont see a reason why your lappy is starting up slow. if the specs in your sig are correct, the only thing i can think of is a "minorly" corrupt OS, but dont hold me to that. Do some things like virus scans, and defrag the hard drive.
__ahhhh, edit____ 2 people beat me to explaining how to get the recycle bin back, so credit goes to them for fixing that.