ok, in the never ending adventure to try to figure out this problem, new light was shed on it tonight.
i had my 6800 going to my monitor, and then i had it cloning everything to my Dell 2200mp projector. I had a [somewhat] processor intensive visualization running through winamp, running at fullscreen. I had the visualization both on my monitor and both on my wall at about 80". After a few minutes, my monitor went black. I closed winamp (doing all of this via the projector) and went into GeForce 6800 settings. After about 2 minutes of double checking everything, and looking for something to blame, my monitor turns back on, out of the blue.
What does this mean? All this did was confuse me more. I hope I don't have to constantly have my projector running as a clone, cause it would get pretty expensive.