I definitely get what you're saying about moving on if people aren't willing to change, it's just not so easy for me.
It's not easy because you're still kind of young, and please don't get from what I posted that you need to simply cut ties or discard value for your family. I've just learned very brutally that I cannot change someone else's perception of me, and love is not always unconditional. In the business world, I manage my external perception very carefully, but only by hiding my personal beliefs on sensitive subjects and who I really am. In the family unit, all your cards are on the table, so there's nothing you can really do to manage the flow of information. You can't "Fox News" yourself to your family, because they know you, the real you.
If they cannot accept you; it hurts. You always wonder what the hell you did or how you could've done things differently. My advice is to not ask those questions or lose sleep over them. You can never ascertain the answer on your own and continually asking yourself that destroys your own self worth. If you ask them those questions, and they answer honestly, you're not going to like what you hear. It won't be behavior or fact based. It will be some view of how things are supposed to be that will differ from yours or reality in general. Don't get choked up about it. Simply smile, nod, and change the subject or be on your way.
There are 2 (of 7 immediate) family members that I can at least have a conversation with. We talk until religion or God is brought up and I excuse myself from the conversation for another year or so. I haven't discarded them, and I miss them very much and make efforts every now and then to connect, but they have given the scarlet letter based on a belief system. I cannot change that; so I will walk the fine line of staying in touch - at arms length, so to speak.
Perhaps laying things out and letting them decide for themselves will be better.
Well... the value of knowing why may be worth the pain of hearing the answer. Just know that when you have that discussion, when you 'put things out on the table', the answer you get will be convoluted with things unrelated to the reason. Listen carefully to their response and try to weed through the fluff. It's probably going to be painful, but remain objective in your listening and interpretation.
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But I finally got to sit the rep down and have a serious talk with her. Got a lot ironed out. She left this morning In a decent mood. I still run the place so she must have been pleased with something.
Those are always the most brutal conversations IMO. You never know how the other party will react and it's especially brutal when they have power over your well-being. I've had some pretty candid conversations with positions of authority in my day. Some went better than expected, and a few had me looking for work.
Glad to hear things are going well my friend.