Worried about my girlfriend

I don't think that he [darkseeker] said it very well. but as with everything in life there are some limits, some hard and fast rules, some lines that you don't cross
Getting naked for other people on the internet is one of those lines.

I'm not saying that she'd be in deep shit, but I certainly wouldn't be worrying about salvaging a relationship. And if she really wanted a relationship with me, or really cared about me, then I agree she'd be in deep shit, because I'd be ending that relationship.

It's not about being controlling at all, you said above, think about what you want to get out of the situation.
I just don't think that I'd be up for a lot of reconciliation. I don't think that the OP is either...

It's clear that he thinks that she's been taking her clothes off on-line for other guys presently rather than just in the past, he said that he felt sickened by the porn that he found, I don't think that there is a lot to salvage here...
 
Yes I agree there are limits and rules that everyone will have , we have exactly the same thing with every interpersonal relationship we have its not just romantic ones . but those rules and limits will be differently for everyone . I however feel its how you react when these limits are tested that we where discussing
For instance I dont think I could ever see myself staying with someone who smoked or drank excessively,did drugs etc , If I did have a partner who did that they wouldn't be in any trouble I would just make it clear to them that we couldn't be together anymore because I couldnt live with the drinking and smoking

I guess I agree getting naked for other people would be one of those lines for me also however if I did find out a girl was doing this I would make sure I was damn sure she was currently doing it and it wasn't just a past experience . Also Like I said above she wouldnt be in any trouble I would just make it clear that that isn't the type of person I want to be with

Perhaps your right and it was just the way he worded it but for me the notion of someone being in trouble would indicate to me that I have some sort of authority over them when I certainly do not see that as the case she is an adult and like I said if you cant live with her decisions as an adult you shouldn't be with her. You might not agree with or like her decisions but trying to change her decisions will only lead to resentment in the relationship in the long run either from her because she changes or from you because she cant change
 
You see, I'm just talking for my own experiences of life. Me and my girlfriend have pretty solid expectations of eachother, and if either of us did that; i don't think there'd be much left to try and salvage, after the swordfight that is.
 
At this point, considering he hasn't replied, I'd assume you are right.
Agreed - and not just that he hasn't actually been back on the site since posting either! Given that perhaps it's better dropped...
 
You see, I'm just talking for my own experiences of life. Me and my girlfriend have pretty solid expectations of eachother, and if either of us did that; i don't think there'd be much left to try and salvage, after the swordfight that is.

thats fair enough if you have high standards and expectations of each other thats cool .but im sure would agree if she wanted to do something as adult and you didnt agree or it fell way below these expectations you would have to respect her right to do that even if it would spell the end of any relationship between you

besides this is one of the problems I find with conventional girlfriend/boyfriend type arrangements there are too many expectations that can be disappointed and in relationships dissapointed expectations only leads to hurt
 
hey, i'm a newby here with a dilemma. I recently was using my girlfriend's computer to fill out some financial aid stuff for school and her web browser started suggesting pornography sites as i was typing. On further inspection it turns out she has not only been looking at a lot of porn sites, but she has videos of herself on her webcam on her computer doing very dirty things to herself, which i have never seen and frankly am quite appalled by. I'm not sure how to address this with her, although i recognize that it is a topic which must be addressed. Help!?

trolololololol!!!!?????
 
Damn....he's not coming back. I was going to see if he would send me the videos so I could review them and see just exactly how severe the problem is and offer up an educated response........too bad






























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