I totally and completely understand where you are coming from.
I live with my mother, my disabled brother, and my grandfather.
My grandfather is a narcissistic functioning alcoholic, who is verbally abusive to anyone he deems "stupid" or below him.
Basically to start off; this includes, women, children, animals, and black people.
Take note that he is 76, but recently went to the doctor where the doctor said he has the body of a 50 year old. He is still very active in work and daily life. This is not some crippled old man that you think of when you think "grandfather".
Most of the people here have read my story and know that my life was not easy. One day back in high school I was having a mental break down, and my grandfather back hand me a crossed the face. This was before all my counseling and anyone had learned what I had been through. Only I knew.
But he waited until my mother went to the bathroom, then proceeded to lie about it.
From that day forward I hated him.
Well some years later, I am much more developed (19 almost 20 years old).
When I was 17 my mother comes up stairs on the verge of crying talking about how he treats her.
The next day when everyone was away, I laid it on him.
How he's a drunk, an ass****, that I completely hate him, and wished he was dead. If it wasn't for he isn't worth going to jail over I would kill him my self.
He was speechless and scared sh**less. I told him if he ever touched or spoke to my mother in that tone of voice again I would kill him.
From there on he has not once treated my family with disrespect in my presence. He NEVER crosses me, if I say something it's law.
I will not take shit from him, it's done.
At this point he is just the drunk ass I have to live with.
What I suggest you do is not to ever agree with what he is saying.
But just be quiet about it, don't do anything for or with him avoid him as much as possible. Wait until you are older.. or are you older? how old are you?
Another good idea would be to talk with your older brother I am sure he has some advice that could help.
I live with my mother, my disabled brother, and my grandfather.
My grandfather is a narcissistic functioning alcoholic, who is verbally abusive to anyone he deems "stupid" or below him.
Basically to start off; this includes, women, children, animals, and black people.
Take note that he is 76, but recently went to the doctor where the doctor said he has the body of a 50 year old. He is still very active in work and daily life. This is not some crippled old man that you think of when you think "grandfather".
Most of the people here have read my story and know that my life was not easy. One day back in high school I was having a mental break down, and my grandfather back hand me a crossed the face. This was before all my counseling and anyone had learned what I had been through. Only I knew.
But he waited until my mother went to the bathroom, then proceeded to lie about it.
From that day forward I hated him.
Well some years later, I am much more developed (19 almost 20 years old).
When I was 17 my mother comes up stairs on the verge of crying talking about how he treats her.
The next day when everyone was away, I laid it on him.
How he's a drunk, an ass****, that I completely hate him, and wished he was dead. If it wasn't for he isn't worth going to jail over I would kill him my self.
He was speechless and scared sh**less. I told him if he ever touched or spoke to my mother in that tone of voice again I would kill him.
From there on he has not once treated my family with disrespect in my presence. He NEVER crosses me, if I say something it's law.
I will not take shit from him, it's done.
At this point he is just the drunk ass I have to live with.
What I suggest you do is not to ever agree with what he is saying.
But just be quiet about it, don't do anything for or with him avoid him as much as possible. Wait until you are older.. or are you older? how old are you?
Another good idea would be to talk with your older brother I am sure he has some advice that could help.