-asking a person out: guy
-setting a time to go out: both
-setting a time to end: girl
-choosing the activity: guy
-paying for the activity: guy
-arranging and providing transportation: guy, except for when its pointless for the guy to pick her up (example, too young to drive, if he has to take the bus to her house then take the bus back to his house with the girl, she should just go on the the bus and he should wait for her at the bus stop)