Fluff, when you said people don't know what goes on behind closed doors, i totally agreed, ive said same things to my friends, 'he might be ok with her now and their happy but who are we to know what happens behind them doors?' so we just call it up on our selfs and not get involved.
you see, your in a wrong postion atm and its kinda falling in on you in a bad way? this is the time to turn to your friends and let them give you the best advice, I know i'd turn to my friends.
I already told you what iv'e seen and been threw and now where glad, we moved on and thats what im here to tell you.
you got to speak someone word to word face to face, this is important, this is no fuckin around asking for oppinons, theirs gonner be a hell of alot of them and you just wanna hear the good things that will make it feel better, no you got to face up and get this done, then your gonner be happy, i suggest you go now and speak to your friends.
this advice is all and only what i can give you.
Im not shouting at you, im trying to help you in a strong way!