I've got a pretty dysfunctional family myself. My sister never talks to my mom and won't acknowledge her anymore. She's married and live in Washington State. I don't get along with my mom either and my dad doesn't get along with her. This is one screwed up mom. Pretty much, we all have a grudge against here. She's the one that led to my the divorce. The 'family' consist of just me, my sister, and my dad. Even then, we don't have the usual get together like you see on TV. We email and call once in awhile so I guess that's good. We don't do the usual family stuff because everyone's too far away and time and expense restrict us too.
One time, I told my previous girlfriend that my mom died just so she won't have to meet her. How sad is that?